Settling

Send me roses weekly. The card attached should read of love and of my beauty. On days that are especially long, run a hot bubble bath for me complete with rose petals. Take me dancing whenever I ask. Wine and dine me. Buy me beautiful jewelry and shoes. Cook me fancy dinners by candle light. Hold my hand every time we are in public. Don't even glance at another girl, you only have eyes for me. Whisper sweet words of love, loyalty, and gratefulness in my ear nightly. Compare my beauty to poetry, love songs and nature. Listen to everything I say. Have an interest in every opinion and experience I have. Support me and defend me. Devote yourself to me completely. Take care of me. Tell me you love me every time we talk. Only go out with your friends if I'm busy, otherwise spend all your time with me. Never complain or get mad at me. Just be glad I'm yours.
                           Do these things and I'll know you love me.

Surprise me with flowers every once in awhile. Do it because you know they make me smile. Call me when life gets to be too much. We'll cook dinner and watch bad movies. Or we can have a lazy Saturday brunch while we listen to jazz. Talk to me, I'll listen. Tell me your dreams, your plans, your fears. Listen to mine, we'll figure them out together. If you think about it, hold my hand every once in awhile. I love how it feels when you reach out to me. Be faithful. Do this and I'll trust you with my heart, all of it. Don't lose patience with me, encourage me. I'll encourage you. Be honest with me, even if it might not be what I want to hear. But, say it with kindness. Go out with your friends and have fun, but include me sometimes. Remember me. Don't leave me behind. When you feel it, tell me you love me. Appreciate me, don't take me for granted.
                        Do these things and I'll know you love me.

Buy me a flower only after we fight. Maybe then I'll forget what we fought about. When you get overwhelmed or tired, go have a drink. Have a lot of drinks. Flirt with other girls. Be sure not to mention you have a girlfriend waiting for your call, missing you and still believing the best in you. Be distant, don't let me in. Don't always be there when I need you, but expect me always if you need me. Have periods of time of sweet perfection, with quiet nights together, running errands, talking, laughing, silliness and complete closeness. Ignore me the next week. Be vague with your feelings. Instead of saying 'I love you' tell me you care for me or that I'm important to you. But make sure your actions are not louder than your words. Treat me as an afterthought. Treat me not as someone you want to be with, but as someone you don't want to miss.
                         Do these things and I'll know you love me.

Buy me expensive gifts as a way to show what money you have. Remind me constantly what's wrong with me. Use mistakes of my past over my head. Make me feel small and insignificant. Remind me I'm nothing without you. Call me names, make me hurt. Remind me how no one else will want me. Disrespect me. Get angry easily. If your words don't do the trick use your fist. Control me. I will mistake this for you caring for me. Tell me I'm mediocre, I have no spark. I will think I can't do better. If I have any confidence, take it away immediately. Don't let me have time with those that might love me. Have me apologize for everything, even when you're at fault. Get me to the point where I wonder if I'm good enough for you instead of wondering if you are good enough for me. Accuse me of being unfaithful to cover up your own unfaithfulness. Ridicule me for my weaknesses. Ask me why I can't be skinnier, prettier or smart. Make it so I depend on you for everything without actually offering me anything.
                        Do these things and I'll know you love me.